If we would accept the dominant trans narrative, all external distinctions between men and women are merely performance.
Before my transition, I “presented male.” Now I “present female.”
“Trans women are women. Trans men are men.”
If we suggest anything even remotely to the contrary, we are mistreating trans people by invalidating their identities.
But there’s a problem.
This line of reasoning shuts a blind eye to the central fact of reproduction. Babies are made by men impregnating women.
“No, that’s transphobic. You can’t say that babies are made by men impregnating women. Not all men can impregnate someone, and not all women can be impregnated.”
Okay then, let’s phase it in terms of sex rather than gender. Babies are made by biological males impregnating biological females.
“Nope, that’s transphobic too. Sex itself is a social construct based on multiple characteristics. But these are not always unambiguous. And trans people find ways to alter many of those characteristics, including hormones, secondary sex characteristics, and external genitalia.”
Oops. Okay, sorry. I didn’t mean to offend you. Let’s try again. Babies are made by genetic males impregnating genetic females.
“Nope. Not that either. We don’t go around testing people’s genetics. We shouldn’t be making that kind of transphobic distinction. And even if we did, there are sometimes genetic abnormalities that make the division into two genetic categories problematic. Thus referring to people’s genetics is an illegitimate way to marginalize trans people.”
Okay, so then. What categories does the trans community have left for us to talk about reproductive roles?
Ah, I know. You talk about ‘assigned gender at birth.’ How about, someone who was assigned male can impregnate someone who was assigned female.
“But we all know that those gender assignments are sometimes faulty. Trans people are wrongfully assigned their gender. In a perfect world, we would not assign any gender to children until they are old enough to express their own internal gender.”
Oh, how about this? Babies are made when a sperm-producer impregnates a uterus-bearer.
“I’m glad to see you’ve finally overcome your transphobia!”
Okay. So then how are babies made?
In a transgender world, we don’t know really.There’s no way to designate who is a sperm-producer and who is a uterus-bearer. On the dating scene, it’s pretty random really. Maybe you’ll hook up with someone who happens to be a match, and one of you will impregnate the other. But it’s just as likely you’ll end up with someone who’s not.
We have no language left to tell what a person is transing from. We used to, but now we’re more enlightened.
But quite honestly, we’d prefer not to talk about making babies in general. It trans people feel bad. It’s a reminder that there is underlying reality behind society’s division of people into men and women.
“There you go being transphobic again. And we thought we had educated you.”